Dating overly sensitive men
If sensitive men were eligible to receive military-style awards, the sensitive guys would get the Purple Heart, hands down.The sensitive personality trait is the gold standard for men, though most men wouldn’t make the cut if subject to a panel of judges.If empaths are around peace and love, their bodies assimilate these and flourish.Negativity, though, often feels assaultive, exhausting. Thus, empaths are particularly easy marks for emotional vampires, whose fear or rage can ravage them.So, why are some men sensitive, while others are not? It’s not the fault of insensitive men that they aren’t comfortable showing their sensitive side — it just means that no one previously taught them how to be sensitive.Think a sensitive man is sensitive because he was born that way? Sensitive men are sensitive because they were taught by parents or authority figures to understand and value their own feelings, as well as the feelings of others.Judith Orloff, MD is the author of The Empath’s Survival Guide: Life Strategies for Sensitive People. Orloff is a psychiatrist and an empath who combines the pearls of traditional medicine with cutting edge knowledge of intuition, energy, and spirituality.
This often overrides the sublime capacity to absorb positive emotions.
Women tend to get the reputation for being the more sensitive of the sexes, but this is commonly refuted even by the more “macho” of men out there. You know when you really want to hang out with a guy but you aren’t sure they feel the same so you offer them an easy going out just in case they’re going to bail on you?
Guys can be touchy, too, and when a guy is really truly very sensitive, it can whole other ballgame. A sensitive guy will read that as you trying to bail on him, not that you’re low maintenance. Of course your boyfriend should be there for you but you don’t want to expect to carry all of your emotional baggage, because he’s going to worry about it even more than you do.
A man’s empathy allows him to love more fully and be more committedin a loving relationship.
But sensitive men must nurture their sensitivities while also grounding themselves in their power and setting boundaries with negative people so they aren’t drained.
(For more relationship strategies read my blog, “Relationship Tips for Highly Sensitive People.”)Recognizing that you’re an empath is the first step in taking charge of your emotions instead of constantly drowning in them.